GREETINGS

Swamiji:

I totally understand the disappointment of a grown up daughter in having seen something you never expected from your father. Food cravings and sexual instincts are the “most primitive and basic” in the world. Nature promotes these even in animals to maintain life. As I said, it is BASIC and PRIMITIVE and demands mental restraint, or it will be animalistic. But it is not bad nor a reason to hate your father. Any repressed craving manifests in weird and socially unacceptable ways as it produces too much disturbance in the person’s mind. You need to approach your father as someone who has a psychological trouble and needs help to get out of his addiction. Discuss with him personally that you saw it, you are not going to tell your Mother or siblings, but if someone else sees such behavior in him, he will lose all his respect. He may realize his mistake and grow. I use the word GROW, because such cravings in a middle aged man needs understanding and demands a lot of maturity on your side to tackle. After you talk to him, be kind to him. Don’t make him feel guilty. If you are cheerful around him and involve with him more, with your MOM and as a family…..he will start “feeling small” in front of your care and concern, despite his immature behavior . He will then have no choice but to behave in a way that he can get your love and respect back. Don’t feel sad….Be a bold girl, rise up to help your father and your family. Hari Om.