GREETINGS

Swamiji:

The abuses or negative energy your husband gives affects you because you love him and expects him to treat you with dignity and care. Now, think of this from his side. He deals with a lot of stressful situations outside. You are the only person he thinks will take his tantrums without hating him. If you are walking on the street and someone abuses you, what will you do? Ignore it, and move on, right? You are focusing on something that does not deserve any attention. If your child beats you, you may punish him temporarily, but you will be able to enjoy it later. To some extend many men need to be treated as “big kids”. You need to toughen up yourselves. Instead of taking negative energy from him, learn to give some positive energy to him. When he comes home, treat him nicely. Every time he blames you, chant your favorite mantra in mind. Never argue or try to explain yourself. All tantrums will fade off, if it cannot provoke the desired response. If your husband sees you are cool even when he is yelling and can treat him nicely afterwards despite his bad behavior, he will correct himself, without you having to do anything. You just need to develop that strength instead of looking at yourself as a victim. Be a bold, cheerful and caring presence in the family. He will get better. My blessings are with you. Hari Om.