GREETINGS

Swamiji, I have 2 questions, I am a mother of a 2yrs old kid. My husband is in gulf.I was Born and brought up in ernakulam,My family owned large property., he is from thrissur I was Engineering college Lecturer..After marriage as per his request i resigned the job &we went to gulf.I got Job there. So happy happy.My Husband was so loving…loving that time….But….. When I got pregnant I came to know about my husband’s real face…what can I do…advised him to forget the past what all happened in his life..he said okk..ok .He managed very nicely. he told me during pregnancy India is safe etc etc ,I agreed and informed company, they also agreed and gave me an year off.and he sent me to India in a week, and informed his parents that I have mental problms and he took my passport and left back to gulf within few days….(i was not aware of this for a week ) First of all My amma was not happy with my marriage. it was not love marriage…arranged one. but … so no big support from amma… when i came to India My neighbors from Gulf called my Mother and told amma problems , and told her about what all happened and his activities…. So amma called me and she asked me to abort the child. But i didnt…I stayed at his home… those parents were irritated me a lot… Only sisster -in- law was a support. After delivery, husband no change. he visited us for a week from gulf in every 9 months and will go back. He wont take us to outing.. He pretended that he has lot of love infront of others…The company where I worked called me to join back, but he didnt allowed…he never gave any money . If i want anything I have to ask my Mother-in-law…They didnt allow me to go for work also….. all the 7 days morning after breakfast he goes out and will be back by night 12.i asked him why u r behaving like this, that time he said,he needs divorce.. last year when his youngst brother got married.after that me and kid is at my home then I started working…… He told me he wants to marry again so mutual petition for divorce.I told mutal pettition not possible, why becaze i dnt want that, for me my son needs a fathers love beside mothers care.he said no….I told then we need compensation.. everymonth u have to pay something for us he said u have job I told right now I am wrking as admin only not engineering salary is less. I want to do M.Tech then only i can join back the college where i worked….he agreed ..He told me he had a look at the property which my family owned. but now my mother is not ready to sell and all… so He dnt want to continue…. Now what happened is that he filed a case that he needs the kid and didnt file divorce case… and asked me to file divorce(if so he has to pay less amont as compensation). …. now the case is in the family court..and I got stay order from high court . Now he came to kerala last month for B.Tech exam. now he is here in kerala..but heard that by this weekend he wii go back. on 28th the Irinjalakuda court will call the case.. that day i will produce the stay order from high court.. Now I took the decision – divorce is better in my case.he dnt want me.. he wants the property..(I never told this to my amma) Now My mother is forcing me for remarriage she keep on saying give the child to husband, when my son is 7 that time anyway his father will take him as per Indian family act etc. so that time it will be pain full… so give kid to husband…..Now salary is main income for me. so she asks how will i look after the child… education….etc etc… she used to irritate me everyday and she is showing hatred towards my son.. I am not planning to marry again. and I am not planning to leave my son.. I want to continue my rest life for my son… I dont want anything return from my son. I believe it is my duty and I will look after my child Pyyar se.. My Mother is very pious, she will go the places where sapthaham and all. from my childhood onwards i also used to hear,Sapthaham etc. she visited Bhagavatha gramam twice.. My mother doesnt know how to show love and care. she is strict. during my childhood and now the same.. so I am afraid of her.. So I dnt want my child to afraid of me So I express my love to him.. he does mischievous means more naught small beat…. Or i will raise my sound.. thats it.My amma says it is not the way I should be strict…. My mother belives in Manthravadhamm will affect people, somebody didt that to us etc.. she used to visit astroleger and will do what they says.. ok it is ok… If to one or two ok…but ….now we shifterd to new place… Now she visited the temple at new place and told all the stories to that Poojari.. so he said he will clear all the problems… etc…he asked to meet him..But I didnt.. I used to visit the temple but I didnt approach him…..So he is very rude… and said to my amma “”That girl is very proud and arrogant… she is going through this much tough situations then she walks as if nothing happened.. I never seen such a human being before…. “”So after that My amma is more and more cruel towards us..Amma is asking she needs all the Dowry and money which she given to me at the time of marriage…….she is going to put a case against him and me…… etc..etc….Now I dont have all gold some i spent for my kid… ..that leave it.. Now the question is past when I had problems used to criticise god…..but after sometime some solution will come… so wat is the use of blaming and all I used to think… so now no criticise… some doors will open when some doors closes……. “Eventhough I am going through this tough situations, I am walking as if nothing happend ” Is it says I am Arrogant….Enik sangadam undu… but..sagadapettal problems illathe aakumo?? swamiji?? njan ennodu thanne parayum everything will get resolve dont worry… Swamiji pls tell me I am wrong or not?? Whether I needs to meet that Poojari??I Then the next question My mother from years she know Bhagavatham… but why she is like this… She shouts in front of others..she shouts at me and to my 2yers old kid….. she blames me for everything… she used to tel because of tmarriage u are suffering all problems now. yes it may be true… but it is past… And I cant do anything on what all happened…..why she is explains all the problms to Poojarai and all… we have to surrender everything to lord that is what i learned. why she is not applying…. Pls clarify why people are like this even though they are pious and religious…. Swamiji pls tell advise me on these cases when u have time… My job…My post is Regional Coordinator (Kerala) but am getting less Salary…They keep on telling will give hike and will give promotion….but some some projects are on hold….. whether i should change this Job… Good company good people..So even though the salary is less I am happy…. But thinking about living cost….(but now a days all the company salary package is less I attended some interviews small hike is there… but…)Whether i change the Job?? I cant take a decision. I want to lead a life with my son…… Divorce is not right decision I know… anyway he is not interested to lead a life with us.. so better thing is give him what he wants right?? Thank You Swamiji..