GREETINGS

Namaskaram Swamiji, I had been married since 12 years and we were along with kids settled in Gulf. Now in India. I resigned my job. Looking out for a job now. Bit since 12 years our life was not at all stable. My wife’s positives are she is very goos in households like doing all works, taking care of children, going to markets, etc. But the problem is she never listens to, obeys me or give any consideration to what i say which would be helpful for the family on a long time basis like don’t be double standards (like if i do something for her on her request she is ok then but while making allegations against me in front of her people which is always does, she says I am treating her like a kid, etc, etc, etc); don’t gossip any family secrets or issues to any family members, relatives or friends; Take collective decisions and take the responsibility even its a wrong one. I have advised her a lot regarding a family life or post marriage life etc….Even her parents and people believe and support her blindly and many times they have insulted me, abused me and asked me to get out of the house…Recently with a fabricated or for an unimaginable scene, they all went for divorce, (saying I always beat her 24/7 which is not right…Yes I had done it few times, when she has insulted me or my people with her utter nonsense talks like saying me a drunkard in front of her people or completely misunderstanding my family during a few instance and using abusive words) but I thought not to and went for counsellor and made them also attend but still the same more or less…What should I do… ? How should I lead a life ? Kindly advice me in detail.